If he faces those with ease, then you know he can probably take the barrage of questions your mom will throw at him.If you’re dating the kind of guy who doesn’t understand how an extra 10 minutes of morning sex might get in the way of your promotion, he’s not yet mom material. If meeting this guy is going to discredit everything you’ve said about him, from his age to his favorite book, best you keep Mom at bay until you straighten this out (or at least assess why you’ve fed her such untruths).— May-December You can help them accept your boyfriend by having plenty of reasons of why you love him and why you’re good together. If you are, it gives the appearance that you’re aren’t secure in the relationship or your choice in a boyfriend.You’ll need to be prepared to answer whatever questions they have, like where you met, how serious you are, and… If things are really as genuine and happy between you as you say they are, then let the relationship speak for itself, answer any questions honestly and openly, and accept that not everyone — including your parents — are going to accept that a 30-year-old man has good intentions when dating an 18-year-old girl.
They care about comparing you to their perfect version of you.
If your parents are willing to meet him, you can introduce them so they can see for themselves what he’s like.
If you are financially independent, you really don’t need their approval (although it would be nice).
If his parents would quizzically raise their eyebrows at the mention of your name, you should probably think about why your parents know everything from his income to his shoe size. Then it’s most likely OK to introduce him to one of yours. Unless his family is just the sort of big, loving bunch that rolls that way. When Mom plugs his name into the search engine and a criminal record pops up, she’s going to ask some uncomfortable questions.
If she’s super waspy, she’s just going to look really uncomfortable, which is also less than ideal.