Christopher Wilder was a wealthy contractor and racecar driver. Why don’t we spot these offenders, even socially accomplished ones, before they do so much damage?
Many blend in because they’re the type of people who can go through the motions of ordinary living while acting out against others without giving themselves away.
If a person you are chatting with asks you to lie to your: you are certainly dealing with an online predator.
Imagine this scenario: You are chatting with a guy named Bob who said he was born in Liverpool, but after a few days, he mentions London as his birthplace.
The fact is, we're often just not prepared to accept that evil can get so close to us.
"I allowed myself to believe Jeff,” Lionel mused, “…to accept all his answers regardless of how implausible they might seem….The following paragraphs are excerpts from , from a chapter about people who live quite close to predators but fail to see them.Although I focus on serial killers in this blog, I believe the same principles hold for being around sex offenders, con artists, and other types of predators: Many people believe that serial killers are loners and losers, unable to maintain careers or relationships.They can charm and manipulate others for their own gain, conning with no regard for anyone's feelings.They look for opportunities—taking a security job that positions them to meet potential victims, for example—and they have no qualms, when the time is right, about exploiting them.In some cases, THEY might even send YOU some pictures of them.Remember, these pictures are probably fake, just like everything about their profile.“I'm always struck by how, after some act of violence, fraud, or sexual abuse, everyone laments: 'Someone must have known! ' And yet, time after time, it seems those who are in a position to see are sidelined, discredited, or disbelieved.'” My sense of it is this: People who can spot predators are ignored for reasons similar to those that blind many people to these offenders in the first place—distortion and denial.Predators count on it, especially in those rare times when someone is savvy enough to spot them and try to alert others.Online predators might ask about: Even though you have been talking to each other for a rather short period of time, this person will constantly bug you about meeting up and getting together.Never agree to any kind of meet up with this person.