If a woman is there at the right time for a widower, then she is in luck. About two weeks after my husband Steven passed away at the age of 50, I received a letter from Social Security directing me to come into their office for a little chat about what type of “benefits” were available for survivors.He takes you to a nice restaurant and much of the conversation centers around his deceased wife.He just wants to tell you all the special things they did together.
All of this emotional havoc was wreaked on me for a measly 7!Let’s look at that list again, and you may see some challenges.A man who has been married to one woman for over forty years can be challenging.They might be used to a wife who did all the domestic things for them, such as the laundry, grocery shopping, cooking, or even fixing a running toilet.So you see a widower online, and you are thinking, “What a great catch this man is! ” Not having done your homework and investigated the challenges, you are encouraged.I met with a youngish sort of lady, who rated a zero on a personality scale.She curtly informed me that at the age of 48, after 29 years of marriage, I was no longer married but single.She further informed me that I was no longer related to my in-laws. I barely heard her mention that due to my young age, I was ineligible for the usual survivor benefits.She went on to explain that she could cut me a check for approximately 7 now and when I turn 60, if I’m not married, I could come back in to apply for my husband’s Social Security benefits.He has probably been taken care of, coddled, and somewhat controlled.He feels he had the greatest marriage of the century.